I thought, "Drunk dialing?" But, it was like after 10:30 in the morning. And then the phone rang 3 more times, each time a short message in succession. I texted Wifey that she received 4 calls from the same person in a short period (snapshot from the web interface for our VOIP phone service):
And then my wife's chat said, "Hmmm, I wonder if it's my ex. That name Pro sounds like something he would do."
I went downstairs and listened to the 4 messages. They lasted from 15 to 30 seconds. They were very, very hard to understand. Something about:
- talked to you last year (didn't happen)
- your birthday (and he did correctly list her recent birthdate, which is confirmation it was hime)
- my arrest last September
- let's talk some more next time
- and the rest was garbled mumbling
I've talked about him in the past, but here's a summation:
- They were together almost 12 years
- Halfway, about the age range that schizophrenia hits men in their 20's he started acting strangely
- And it developed into fullblown paranoid schizophrenia. She had him hospitalized twice.
- Each time, after they force-fed him meds to be sane, he would say, "That's crazy. I'm not nuts!" And would throw away his meds
- After the second time, when he became violent, she had divorce papers waiting for him when she went to go pick him up at the state hospital
- Since his family feels she didn't give him a "fair shake" they don't talk - thus she can't keep track of where he is
- I met him once when he tried to sue her over the divorce agreement (in small claims court). He and she acted as their own counsel. He refused to tell the judge that he had just come out of the state hospital as part of the reason for contesting the divorce settlement. And in a 30 minute window, I saw a man go from normal to just gibbering to himself.
- He's about 160 pounds soaking wet - I'm not worried about him physically, but with a weapon? And this is Texas. Mental risks issues abound!
During a trip to see her family in Santa Fe, New Mexico, he started coming down with paranoid delusions in the car that the government was following them and tracking them. He kept demanding she speed up or slow down or go into hiding at a motel. Finally in West Texas, she had enough and told him that she was proceeding to Santa Fe without him and he was to make his way back home.
She left him somewhere out there and when she returned home a few days later, he had somehow made his way home.
When Wifey moved in with me, she sold her house. During his paranoid rages, she would leave her house and drive endlessly through neighborhoods dreaming of a new life without him. And after her divorce, she bought a house in one of those neighborhoods she dreamt about. When she sold her house, she agreed to have her mail transferred to a PO Box for a year or two so he couldn't track her. He would occasionally call her years after the divorce, in some various level of sanity. And she got a new phone number, which we paid to have unlisted.
Then after 10 years or so, we got lazy and decided that having an unlisted number wasn't worth it anymore. And the last we heard, he had gotten arrested somewhere in California. Apparently, being homeless, he had been camping in the state forests. He started a campfire during a no-burn period and so got arrested (Wifey did a google and found his arrest and sentencing record). I think he doesn't fight the arrests because: a) he's nuts and b)it's food and shelter for a while.
He gets arrested often, apparently, because these voices tell him he's got to go knock on THAT DOOR at THAT HOUSE and warn those poor people that aliens or the government are watching them. That leads to a trespassing charge, which they typically drop. They just want him off their porch.
So the number shows me that it's a Verizon cell phone originally assigned out of Sacramento. But you know how cell phones are, he could be calling fro outside my house and it would show he's calling from Sacramento.
I'm hoping he's not in Texas. We haven't had to think about him in 10 or more years. I guess we cross that bridge as it's needed.